In life we often times define ourselves from the mistakes we have made in the past. Your past is not you! Although sometimes we drown our heads in would of, should of, could ofs, dont! Be mindful that all that has happened in the past, is in the past. Use the past as lessons to guide you forward.
I used to find myself diving so deep into my past that it would start to repeat, allowing me to be stuck in a cycle of moments that did not serve me. As I grow I now understand that if I continue to dwell on things from the past without learning anything, the cycles will inevitably continue until I do.
Do not allow anyone to define you by your past, not even yourself. You are not your past, you are what you learned from the past. Use those lessons today to fuel you for tomorrow.
Stop playing yourself, LOVE yourself!
Peace and Blessings!