Here’s one of the thing ways I’ve learned over time to work with self limiting beliefs.
Noticing the traits that are self-limiting such as preventing oneself from eating because other people have told you negative things about self-image (or being selfish or needy etc…), or feel pressure from others to always have answers.
Then first think of an event in which you feel(in your body, and mind) and are experiencing the limiting belief. On a scale of 1-10 how strong it is. What happened during the event. lets say ur person a, then person b or situation b happened. How did person a respond.(responding usually with a self-limiting belief)
Now trace back an earlier memory of when this happened. Check to make sure that you are experiencing the same limiting belief.
Keep tracing back.
When you can’t trace back anymore, you’ve likely found one point of origin.
Note how Person a(yourself) and Person B and all that was involved in the situation played out. What did you tell yourself after this experience?(what limiting belief you developed).
Now Start the same situation again and with your future self to back you up, have your past self stand up for yourself and empower yourself by speaking your mind, doing what you should have done then and change what you learned from that moment.
look around to see if there are any other times that you remember before. If so do this again. ^
Now notice how your current self, whats happening with your stress? what do you believe now? What are you going to do differently in the future? Are you going to write down what you learn. Are you going to have a I tried my best jar in which, even if you felt pressure from limiting belief, you still were able to remember that this is a limiting belief and replay out the scenario in your mind showing you being empowered. then when you get home, you put some type of value system in it, like coins(money), sticky notes with positive affirmations. Also have a piece of paper to keep track of a point system. When you have reached a landmark, treat yourself to something nice.
Example for dissecting the direct event which caused you to start with limiting belief.
For limiting beliefs about eatting
It was late one night, and person a went to the fridge. they found a cake in the fridge. then someone called. you picked up the phone and starting eating a slice of cake. Also watching something on tv. then either the person on the phone starts increasing your anxiety because they just reminded you of something they needed to do or something you forgot to do. You eat more cake unconsciously. the person whose cake it is comes home. they see you finished the cake and flip out. They say how could you have eaten all that cake. I was gonna use it for the bake sale tomorrow. I must be starving you if you managed to eat all that cake, ungrateful child. What will you do if you get fat? Now I need to get a new cake.
It was late one night, a hungry person went to the fridge. they found a cake in the fridge. then someone called. you picked up the phone and served yourself a slice of cake. Also watching something on tv. then either the person on the phone starts increasing your anxiety because they just reminded you of something they needed to do or something you forgot to do. You eat more cake unconsciously. while listening to them and watching tv. the person whose cake it is comes home. they see you finished the cake. They say how could you have eaten all that cake. I was gonna use it for the bake sale soon.
“I didn’t mean to, I will help you get another cake tomorrow. Tomorrow I will come with you to the store to buy another cake. If you need help at the bake sale, I can help out.”
“ok…, let’s just get the cake tomorrow, try to be more careful in the future”
now checking what your response is to this new situation, what did you learn?, how do you feel now?, how did empowering oneself help in this situation. think of a possible situation in the future and using what you’ve learned to change your behavior.
The situation in the future
You go to a barbeque, after everyone gets their food(you love yourself and convince yourself to get seconds) then you learned that they are out of food.
A person whose already had some food comes over, points at your newly acquired food in hand.
“Are you really gonna eat that?/ it’s a lot of food,/ it’s a lot of fatty foods/ you don’t like bbq food that much” You pause for a second then with resolve say.
“Yes I am going to eat My food”
“alright” the person walks away.
Also, positive affirmation video.
If you want to find what you need to forgive listen to a bit when awake, if not, you can put on as low as possible and listen to as subliminal.
If you have any questions or want me to lead you in the processes describe above, just message me