I recently went through a divorce.
After waiting 37 years to get married, I attracted and married a very deeply narcissistic man!
I felt defeated, and kept asking myself, " HOW did this happen to ME"?!
I waited so long, so patiently, then finally said ‘yes’ and this is what I get…GRRR
Then, after lots of research and self therapy, I snapped out of it!!
Wake up Val, YOU are not a victim, (I mean I kinda was), but Not anymore!
YOU attracted and welcomed this narcissistic man!
But WHY, But HOW you may ask… I asked myself the same questions.
Because I was living as a codependent, my entire life, that’s how!
But what is codependency?? Well, there are many types of answers to that question.
If you take a look at this material, you will come up with your own definition.
It is unique to everyones experience.
I learned codependency at a very young age (we all do, mostly)) & had zero awareness of this or narcissism until this year.
Boy, do I know a lot about codependency and narcissism now!
And here is how I began to heal myself…
I want to share with you the material I used that literally CATAPULTED me within a few short weeks into very deep learning and understating.
Not only about my broken marriage, but I started to understand my husbands behaviors, and most importantly I stared seeing, understanding and healing my deep wounds from childhood.
YOUTUBE CHANNELS (type in key word >narcissism)
GRETA BEREISAITE (She doesn’t approach narcissism much, but she has great content)
FATHER DAUGHTER TALK by RC BLAKES
QUEENOLOGY by RC BLAKES
CODEPENDENT NO MORE by MELODY BEATTIE
THE BEST YEAR OF YOUR LIFE by DEBBIE FORD
HONORING THE SELF by NATHANIEL BRANDEN
EMPATH, NARCISSISTS & CODEPENDENCY CYCLE RECOVERY by DANIEL ANDERSON
FACING LOVE ADDICTION by PIA MELLODY
I read a lot of books. I started reading self help books almost 20 years ago. And I am just now, (after this wild marriage experience), making the biggest psychological breakthrough of my life!
And these books / Videos have been the reason why.
All the books listed above are literally life changing!!!
I am still getting through this list, but have been consistently getting through 1 book in about one week or two, I am not a fast reader.
These books and videos have been like GOLD to me.
I hope this helps someone out there. …
If you care to discuss any of the books, topics or videos< I am your gal!
Hit me up.
Much love Fam.